Friday, June 18, 2010

Friendships

I love to read other weight loss blogs. They inspire me to keep going. From being heavy to doing a bikini competition to crossing over into ONEderland. The happiness I feel for people I don't even know is awesome. What a wonderful community here in bloggyland. Which brings me to a problem I just recently realized I had. I have been struggling lately with friendships. I typically only have a few friends at a time, its just how I roll.

Right now my best friend and I live a couple hours apart, don't talk much and I am totally disconnected from her no matter how hard I try to keep close. We have been best friends for 10 years, both have young kids, but life just gets in the way.

I have another friend that I share a lot of weight loss stuff with as well as some personal stuff since she is BIL's gf. I really enjoy her company, but again we are a few hours away from each other so there is little to no time for "girl" time.

I have another great friend whom I have never met, she is my best friend right now despite us never meeting. Her and her family are coming to visit us next month and I am SO EXCITED! We have so much in common, from little things to big things...we share weight loss struggles, kid ups and downs, husband crap...even have tattoos in same places LOL hmm I hope she is real ;)

I had a really great friend who lived close and we did a lot together....she recently moved to another state.

Which brings me to the current. I really have no good friends in my town, that I can chat with, hang out with etc. I have such a hard time putting myself out there to create friendships. My sister and SIL both live here, so I hang out with them alot, but I always feel like I am either left out of fun plans or I have to sort of invite myself to things. They both have tons of friends and are just both "good" at having friends I guess. I'm not sure what I need to do to make myself more accessible as a friend....how to put myself out there more...

One a much different note....Tonight is my nieces bridal shower. Its hard to believe that my oldest niece and oldest nephew are getting married and both have babies....at the same time I had my 3rd! Makes me feel old!

1 comment:

Michelle said...

I'm real!! ;) I understand (of course) and have the same issues...and your post made me cry cause I "get" it.

Sigh.

I guess we need to remember to lean on our TRUE friend, Jesus when we're feeling down or lonely. The rest is just details anyway. ;)